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This Girl has Turned into a Woman

March 11, 2009

People who truly know the “real” me and those who saw me blossom into a full-fledged woman sometimes amaze me. They are the people I call “friends” (outside of the blog world, that is) who I think are a bit too stucked in the past. I feel they still see me as a teener who needs guidance and advice every step of the way. I feel that they still have this vision of me as a struggling young girl trying to make her way to the complicated world called life. Oh well, I couldn’t blame them because I was once that little girl and they were in fact the ones who walked me through the path of womanhood.

But now, after living a little over three decades, I think have already learned a lot of things. May it be professional or heart matters. Some in hard ways and some in fun ways. I know I have yet to learn a lot more things but hey, I have my share of adversities in the past that made me what I am today. And there are some friends who, I think, don’t seem to realize this.  They sometimes tend to pry too much or offer me a nudge even if I am not asking for it. It sometimes make me sick big time.  Or are they just being everly protective of me?

Sometime last week. I got to talk online with one of my closest male friends. He is a former colleague and stood as my confidante whenever I needed a shoulder to cry on. The usual hi-and-hello chit-chat transpired into a more serious converstation. Oh well, it started with that I Am Engaged entry I posted some days back. My friend, who happens to be happy in coupledom, intially told me that he’d feel sad in case I get married. His statement indeed gave me confusion. All along, I thought he, together with others friends in our circle, have been wanting to hear me announce my goodbyes to singlehood. My friend had a hard time explaining his statement to me. And then finally said, “It just like when my youngest sister announced that she’s getting married, I kinda felt sad. So I will feel the same for you as well if and when you get married.”

Hmmm… that was one sweet reaction. Don’t you think?

I guess it’s a usual feeling a brother would have knowing that their little girl has already grown and decided on trying on a new life. Oh, I can’t wait for the time his daughter tells him the same  thing. I bet he’d not only faint. LOL!

That was just the part 1 of our converstation. We again met online last night and continued on with our topic. And this time, it was a bit more specific. He tried to ask more updates about my life… more particularly, my non-exsistent lovelife. Well, he knows a lot about my past. I have not kept anything from him (Yep, darkest secrets included!)  so I didn’t think twice on telling him some “personal” stuff that I am currently busy with now. And upon learning about a guy I am eyeing on, he started to act like an older brother giving advices to his little sister. I got a bit too offended because I didn’t ask for any advice that time as I thought just to get some heads up. I really felt he crossed the line when he started telling me things, giving me negative ideas about my mystery guy. And so my sungit nature again surfaced.

Last night’s online converstation went something like this (sorry I needed to edit as I dont want to mention names and discreetly re-write the foul words I told my friend in our conversation):

Friend: I hope he’s  nice.

Winkie: Oh yes, he is.

Friend: So, is he your BF now?

Winkie: Nope, we’re just friends.

Friend: Pero may terms of endearment?

Winkie: So?

Friend: Eh di kayo nga!

Winkie: Hindi nga. We are just friends who happen to know how we feel for each other. Please don’t make things too complicated.

Friend: So why can’t he be with you nga?

Winkie: As I said, he’s busy. He can’t leave work that easily and fly just to see me.

Friend: JUST? You term yourself as “just”???

Winkie: Haay, kulit! Sabi nang don’t make things too complicated eh!

Friend: Ok fine! Sorry for prying!

Winkie: You should be sorry. You pry too much that sometimes in hurts me na.

Friend: Too much ba ba? I just want to give you a nudge.

Winkie: Nudge? You think I need a nudge now? Trenta y Dos na ako. Alam ko naman na siguro ginagawa ko.

Friend: Well, sometimes you do need a nudge.

Winkie: I’m telling you, I dont need one now.  At excuse me,  hindi lang sometimes yang nudges nyo noh?! You guys always nudge me even if I don’t need it at all.

Winkie: Sometimes I feel that you dont want me to be happy.

Winkie: Because everytime I tell you I’m happy, you always throw me negative thoughts.

Winkie: I feel like you guys always pull me down when I’m at the peak of my happiness. I feel you dont want to see me happy.

Friend: Hindi naman sa ganon. What I was trying to say was, if this won’t work out then go find someone else and move on.

Winkie: But why don’t we give this one a chance? Let’s just wait and see.

Friend: Wait and see? Hanggang kelan???

Winkie: As long as it takes.

Friend: Lola ka na nun pag nagkataon.

Winkie: Eh let’s give this one a chance nga.

Winkie: Kung ganyan kayo ng ganyan eh p*****g ***, tatandang dalaga nga talaga ako.

Winkie: Is that what you want?

Friend: No. Sayang lang kasi yung time.

Winkie: Oh now, I get it. You, guys, are the ones who are pressured, NOT ME!

Winkie: Like those colleages who try to set me up with some random guys for date. They are the ones pressured, NOT ME!

Friend: Siguro nga. Kami ang nagmamadali.

Winkie: Bakit? Saan ba kayo pupunta at nagmamadali kayo?

Friend: Ewan ko sayo, ang gulo mo!

Winkie: Ewan ko sa nyo, kayo ang magulo!!!

Winkie: Napipikon lang ako sayo kasi you are saying negative things or doubts about this guy you barely know. Eh kami yung araw-araw na magkausap.

Friend: You have a point there. Di ko sya kilala.

Winkie: Precisely the point!

It was really a very long conversation. While talking to him, I browsed my YM archive. I found this and pasted in our IM window:

Mystery Guy: Hi darling!

Winkie: Hi baby! How are you?

Mystery Guy: Am good. And you?

Winkie: Am good too.

Mystery Guy: You know I said prayers for your dad yesterday.

Mystery Guy: It was on my own though.

Mystery Guy: I wasnt able to drop by the church.

Mystery Guy: Hope that counts.

Winkie: Oh thanks, Babe. That’s sweet!

Winkie: Of course, it counts.

Winkie: I went to my dad’s tomb yesterday as promised and offered flowers.

Winkie: Yellow ones. I told him they are from you.

Mystery Guy: Thanks baby.

Upon reading that old IM conversation between me and my mystery guy, my friend IM-ed me back.

Friend: Ok fine, I get the point!

Winkie: Mabuti naman!

As always, we ended with a happy note.

So, what’s my purpose of sharing this? Wala lang, naglalabas lang ng sama ng loob. Well, as the title suggests, I just hope that my friend(s) will no longer treat me as the little girl he/they once knew. And that he/they realize I have already grown into a smart-a** woman! LOL!

32 Comments leave one →
  1. March 11, 2009 6:55 am

    goodluck on everything!
    hope everything goes well.

    kung si leo d-cap nga eh kahit sobrang galing ng performance nya sa blood diamond and departed,
    hindi pa rin maalis ang titanic image nya.

    sometime it takes time to change the perception of others sau… you just have to let them realize na thing change. and things change for the better. 🙂

    • March 11, 2009 11:12 am

      thanks epfi. i guess, they will forever see me as a small sis. kasi pag tumanda ako eh tatanda din sila. hehehe!

      well, that short OL conversation made my friend realize that im no longer a kid 🙂

  2. March 11, 2009 7:55 am

    It’s nice to have real friends around. I think mabuti naman yung intention ng friend mo. But yes you are right, they should realize that you’ve come of age and that you are already capable of discerning what is right and who is right for you. Have a great day po, Ms. Winkie. ^_^

    • March 11, 2009 11:14 am

      Yeah, his intentions were good. Pagod lang din siguro ako that night kaya OA sa sungit. Nagkita na nga kami. Parang walang nangyari. He’s really one of my “bestest” friends.

  3. IKAY permalink
    March 11, 2009 7:59 am

    baka lng kc hindi pa nila narereliaze na you are old enough na to take care of yourself…hayaan mo na lang minsan sila… mahal ka lng talaga nila kya gnun n lng sila ka concern syo.
    wag ka ng mainis ang wrinkles..he he he!

    • March 11, 2009 11:19 am

      oo nga eh. little sis pa rin ako sa mata nila. yes, i really feel their overflowing love for me and i feel blessed for that.

      kaya na nga, bati agad kami. ayoko ng wrinkles!!! hehehe!

  4. March 11, 2009 8:00 am

    Thank you nga pala for voting, for the comment and for appreciating my background music.. hehe ^_^

    Yes all is well naman with me. Wish you all the best po. A very nice person like you only deserves the best! I’m praying for that.

    • March 11, 2009 11:20 am

      Sabi mo kasi participate sa voting kaya nagvote ako, hehehe!

      Uy thanks, Mon ah! Salamat sa prayers 🙂

  5. March 11, 2009 1:53 pm, kami naman dito sa blog world eh susuporta sa lahat ng naisin mo ms. winkie..

    cheers to that blooming lovelayp..ay friends lang pala..

    • March 11, 2009 2:40 pm

      thanks vanvan!

      oo tama, blooming friendship yun, whehehe! tomorrow ko na post ung tag mo ah! nagawa ko na cya 🙂

  6. March 11, 2009 3:22 pm

    You are right there, minsan o madalas ung unsolicited advise e di mainam. Dapat medyo maingat tayo sa bagay na yun kasi even friends have boundaries too. Dapat they know how to listen too and not just doing the talking.
    Can I add you Miss Winkie?

    • March 12, 2009 4:35 am

      Well, that was precisely my point. I’m just blessed with friends who are truly understanding. So yung ganyng conversation eh hindi issue sa amin.

      Feel free to add me up. I’ll do the same. And thanks for peeking in 🙂

  7. March 11, 2009 3:50 pm

    Hi Friend.. Interesting post.. Nice blog.. Keep up the good work.. Do find time to visit my blog and post your comments.. Take care.. Cheers mate!!!

    • March 12, 2009 4:37 am

      Hi, thanks for the peek! I checked your site. Will definitely go back to read and comment.

      Thanks again!

  8. snglguy permalink
    March 12, 2009 12:12 am

    Ah basta, kailangan pakain ka muna bago ang kasal-kasal ha? 😀

    • March 12, 2009 4:39 am

      Oo na, Kuya Rudy! As if naman ikakasal talaga ako, hehehe!

      Uy, kain tayo seafood. My treat, sunduin mo ako! Hehehe!

  9. kathy permalink
    March 12, 2009 12:24 am

    ay ms.winkie ang sweet nman ng mga fwends mo.kaya lang nga minsan kakasakal nga sila.pero siguro nagwoworry lang sila sayo kase they just love u so much.

    pero for sure in the end worth it yang pagiintay kay mr.right.

    dnt worry sasabihin ko na rin kay BRO na paki tulak na si mr.right papunta sayo ang bagal kase maglakad,para bumilis ang pagpunta na jan sau..^^


    • March 12, 2009 4:44 am

      ay naku kat, mababait at sweet talaga mga friends ko. ako lang ang salbahe sa kanila, hehehe! and yes, sobrang love nila ako at syempre luvz ko din naman sila.

      sige nga, pakitulungan ako ng pagbulong ke BRO. sana bigyan na rin nya ng mapa para di na maligaw at mapabilis ang pagdating. whehehe!

      muah muah din! 😛

  10. March 12, 2009 8:02 am

    bka nagovereact lang cla at over protective kea ganun..o bka gawain nila?ahehe

    • March 12, 2009 9:20 am

      azul, none of the above. hehehe! overly familiar lang kami siguro sa isa’t isa. normal naman ang unsolicited advice from close friends di ba? kaso that time i felt my friend crossed the line. and since close kami, i explicitly said my part/feelings.

      ang mga friends talaga, pakialamero by nature. whehehe!

      kumusta naman bakasyon mo sa bulakan? 🙂

  11. March 12, 2009 11:58 am

    “It just like when my youngest sister announced that she’s getting married, I kinda felt sad. So I will the same for you as well if and when you get married.”

    oh that was sweet. My guy friends too are very concern to me, because until now.. I haven’t found another bf.. It’s been a year. They thought di pa me move on. Just a friends who are so concern.

    I think the guy likes you too :0

    • March 12, 2009 5:44 pm

      natawa naman ako sa last statement! i dont think so… hehehe!

  12. tino permalink
    March 12, 2009 3:12 pm

    lahat ng opinyon e tama lahat.. kumporme na un sa mag-iinterpret. ok ung positive side at dapat me negative din. check and balance lang yan. miss winkie… wag mong seryosohin ang mga sides ng mga taong nakapaligid sau bagkus e pag-aralan mo lng, wag kang masyadong paapekto….
    ramdam ko na lumalabas ang pagka-tigre mo pag me mga nega kang natatanggap. relax and be cool. tsaka ikaw ang timon ng buhay mo, kahit tama or mali ang suhestyon na matanggap mo, ikaw pa rin ang me huling desisyon at un ang dapat mong panindigan. no one is perfect kaya kung magkamali ka man e ok lng un. kaya dapat maging handa sa lahat.
    hindi mo makikilala ng lubusan ang isang tao till magsama kau sa isang bubong… me parting words lng ako sau… “Expect the worst but strive for the BEST!”

  13. March 12, 2009 3:41 pm

    Akala ko si buhaypenoy ang pumasok na url ko dito hehe ung si redfieryheart pala ang nag-apir. po ung tagalog kong blogs. Yehey me nadagdag na naman ako.
    Thanks mwahhhh.

    • March 12, 2009 5:46 pm

      hehehe… sige add ko si buhaypenoy. ang taray naman, may english at tagalog blog sites. 🙂

  14. March 12, 2009 9:46 pm

    When this girl turned into a woman her love has no walls, no ceiling no floors.

    • March 13, 2009 4:57 am

      hmmm… parang napakanta ako dun ah! hehehe!

  15. March 13, 2009 1:30 am

    and who’s the very very lucky guy?

    (sabay-sabay) spill the beans!!!


    • March 13, 2009 4:58 am

      rye, eto ang sagot ko syo: AYOKO!!!


  16. azul permalink
    March 13, 2009 3:27 am

    ayun uber sa week balik ulit ako dun..hehe

    • March 13, 2009 4:59 am

      that’s good. ayan, naadik ka na tuloy umuwi ng bulacan, hehehe!

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